Live Life Fully: Getting back into action

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With the

uncertainty in

our world, you may be feeling stuck about your next move.

No doubt your routines have been altered in the past couple of months. And you may be wondering how to get back into action. One of my good friends has a solution to inertia. She just says to “go out and get some ‘ertia.” If only it were that easy!

A lot of the rules and guidelines for living our daily lives have been rewritten — at least temporarily. Here are some tips that may help you get your groove back.

Two-minute morning makeover

Did you know the average person is awake for around 1,000 minutes a day? That’s according to author and entrepreneur Neil Pasricha. He’s the director of the Institute for Global Happiness — and author of “The Book of Awesome” and “The Happiness Equation.”

Pasricha was a guest on “The Mel Robbins Show” last week and suggested using just a few of those 1,000 minutes to jump start your morning. Before getting out of bed, run three thoughts through your mind:

Today, I will let go of _____.

  • I am grateful for _____.
  • I will focus on _____.
  • Don’t agonize over the answers. Just take a quick snapshot. This can help provide clarity throughout your day. Just the “letting go” commitment is huge. If you can’t let it go today, put it on tomorrow’s list. And the next day ... until you’ve conquered it.

    Mood follows action

    You may be waiting for the mood to strike you. If you want to change your state, though, you need to get into action first. Then your energy and enthusiasm will increase. As ultra-endurance athlete and podcaster Rich Roll says, “I’ve never gotten back from a run feeling like, ‘I wish I hadn’t done that.’”

    If your project seems overwhelming, break it down into tiny steps. Your confidence will grow as you build upon that first step. And then the next one.

    “Don’t wait for those feelings of excitement, confidence and clarity before you take action,” advises motivational speaker and author, Mike Dooley. “Take action, and they’ll follow. If you have to, just pretend. Make believe. Fake it. Right now, get up, walk outside, smile, wave, wink and exude.”

    Even if this seems over the top, you get the point.

    Less is more

    You may not realize your “stuff” could be bogging you down. “When you’re managing a lot of stuff, it clutters your mind,” says life coach and television host, Mel Robbins.

    This takes two forms — mental and physical. If you’re feeling a lack of focus, chances are your mind is too cluttered. Get out a sheet of paper and take a few minutes to get that stuff out of your head. This helps to create some structure and often works for me when I wake up in the middle of the night with something on my mind. Post-it notes on my nightstand have been a godsend!

    And then there’s the physical side. There are lots of organizational systems out there. Here’s the key thing, though. Smart small. Most of us are overambitious out of the gate.

    Don’t tackle the entire closet. Think about setting aside a few things to donate. Or go through one drawer each day. Baby steps add up to future successes, while attempts at marathons can set you up for failure.

    Silence the shame gremlin

    We talk to ourselves all the time. And, sadly, the negative thoughts often drown out the positive ones. Our egos try to protect us, and those safety messages are naturally cautionary in nature. It’s estimated that at least 70% of what we hear in the outer world is negative. So, look how much it takes just to get up to neutral.

    This is another way we can get stuck. It’s critical to have coping skills to combat that inner critic. Pasricha advocates using three questions:

    • Can I do anything about this?
    • Will this matter on my deathbed?
    • Is this a story I’m telling myself?

    Sometimes one question will apply, and sometimes two may apply. The point is to take that gremlin that keeps cropping up — and put it into perspective.

    It’s even okay to throw yourself a little pity party, says Robbins. Just get it out of your system, and then start journaling around these questions:

    • What was the lesson?
    • What’s the opportunity for the future?
    • How do I move forward?

    Getting back into action just takes one step. The first one is the hardest. That’s where you’ll find the ’ertia, though!

    ©2020 Linda Arnold Live Life Fully, all rights reserved. Linda Arnold, M.A., M.B.A., is a syndicated columnist, psychological counselor and founder of a multistate marketing company. Reader comments are welcome at linda@lindaarnold.org. For information on her books, go to www.lindaarnold.org or Amazon.com

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