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The New Year is always my favorite time of year. 365 delicious days, 52 wonderful weeks and 12 magnificent months!

2021 brings even more significance — following our unprecedented experiences in 2020. Whew, what a year!

We’re still in the throes of the COVID-19 pandemic, with some of the largest numbers of cases and deaths now taking place. And there have been devastating consequences with the loss of human lives, job layoffs and the closings of businesses.

Which lens are you looking through?

I’m sure we all wonder what 2021 will be like. While there are many things that are still out of your control, your perspective has a lot to do with the way you’ll see things. To that end, I’ve compiled some words of wisdom to help kick off 2021.

I’ve collected these over the years — from seminars I’ve attended and speeches I’ve given. Some of them are touchstones along my life’s journey.

We’re still charting our way through this global pandemic, and I thought some of these insights may strike a chord with you, as they have with me. Some are attributable, and some are unknown. Many are on post-it notes. I look for the nuggets wherever I can find them.

Perspective

  • We either make ourselves happy, or we make ourselves miserable. The amount of work is the same. (Carlos Castaneda)
  • Contentment comes not from greater wealth, but from fewer wants.
  • Is this thought useful? Does it add to my life?
  • Most of us have to find time before we can find ourselves.
  • What is going right in my life? What else? What else?

This is particularly helpful — since our mind thinks in pictures.

Outlook

  • Do you believe we live in a friendly universe?
  • There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age. (Sophia Loren)
  • Your life is yours to live, no matter how you choose to live it. When you do not think about how you intend to live it, it lives you. (Gary Zukav)
  • Write down three things that make you feel good about yourself.

Work

  • Are your to-do list and calendar filled with commitments and obligations that are draining your energy?
  • Effort is not your friend. Effort is what you do when you don’t believe. Trying is your indication that you’re not going with the flow. (Abraham)
  • What will you stop, let go of and say “no” to so you can be truly present in your life?
  • Do one thing you’re afraid of every day.

We are what we repeatedly do.

  • Live into the answers.
  • Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. It is making time when there is none. Coming through time after time, year after year. Commitment is the stuff character is made of — the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism.
  • Go out there and kill it. Whatever they throw at you, return it like Serena Williams. You. Are. Fierce. (Beth in ‘This is Us’ television show).

Spirit

  • Remember: the point is joy. You’re meant to enjoy your life. The measure of your success is joy.
  • Everything happens FOR you, not TO you.

Salt cures everything — sweat, tears, the ocean. (Isak Denison)

  • Faith is a choice. It’s the opposite of worry.
  • EGO = Edging God Out

When you lose someone you love, it doesn’t mean they’re not with you. You just have to find them in a different way. Think of that spirit as being everywhere — in your house, in your heart. Embrace it. You always have that.

  • Beatles story: The band spent 10,000 hours practicing music. “Our job is the quantity. God’s job is the quality.” (John Lennon/Paul McCartney)
  • I live in light, with fleeting moments of darkness.
  • THANK YOU must become the two words you deliberately say and feel more than any other words. Thank you is the bridge from where you are now

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  • to where you want to be.

The Nine Fruits

These virtues have been recognized as being the nine fruits of humanity: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. I like an edited version that adds compassion and humility.

Zen things

  1. Do one thing at a time.
  2. Do it slowly and deliberately.
  3. Do it completely.
  4. Do less.
  5. Put space between things.
  6. Develop rituals.
  7. Designate time for certain things.
  8. Devote time to sitting.
  9. Smile and serve others.
  10. Make cleaning and cooking meditations.
  11. Think about what is necessary.
  12. Live simply.

In conclusion, I’d like to share three simple, but very profound statements. The first one is anonymous. The second is from author Gabrielle Bernstein, and the third is from business consultant and author Marie Forleo.

  1. Life is change. Growth is optional.
  2. When you feel good, you’re in the flow. When you feel bad, you’re in resistance.
  3. Everything is “figureoutable.”

©2021 Linda Arnold Live Life Fully, all rights reserved. Linda Arnold, M.A., M.B.A., is a syndicated columnist, psychological counselor and founder of a multistate marketing company. Reader comments are welcome at linda@lindaarnold.org For information on her books, go to www.lindaarnold.org or Amazon.com.